Why reply to him? An episode from Sex and the City: Miranda discovers that if a guy doesn't call you (or doesn't wanna go out) means he "just isn't into you."

i agree with annette, you dont owe him a reply after an email like that. he seems like a tightass and seemed to enjoy pointing out all your [perceived] faults and rolling them into a stereotype or two. anyone willing to do that before even meeting someone probably isnt worth meeting or even talking to.

afterthought: is he even talking about you? (you said he completely missed your issues and thought you were unemployed.)

either way, with an attitude like his, i think *he* would be wasting *your* time. you can do much better. :-)

[im also ignoring the fact that he didnt bother to break the date beforehand, thats terribly rude no matter what the situation.]

Noelle, this guy is a DOA. Good thing you didn't meet! Don't even waste your time with a reply (if you are able)..Sometimes, emotions can get the better of us but I've done much better when I immediately delete that annoying e-mail.

Stay true to what's best about you and keep searching for a new fish.

Firstly, I'd like to apologize to the readers in this thread for the tone of this post. Its not my intention to offend anyone unnecessarily. Its not all good but its how I feel about this particular thread at the moment. Yes, I have a leaky soul...don't hangout with me or you're libel to catch it too.

Hi Noelle,

Here is my deconstructive and hopefully not too damaging analysis of the issues at hand...

> Hey--
>
>I just got this email from a guy I was supposed to
>meet...2 hours later. We had talked on the phone a few
>times and while I do have some issues (dont we all?),
>he completely missed mine (namely, I am a consultant,
>not unemployed). Anyone have some good thoughts on how

noelle, your profile on tribe indicated/indicates that you are indeed unemployed.

>I should reply to him?

Yes. I think you should thank him for pointing out an error in your profile and then take action to correct it. More on how to respond to him, assuming *your* profile is accurate. Right now, it sez you are 38 and unemployed...

>thanks,
>n

Actually, no thanks are necessary or desired. I'm only doing this as an educational and humorous exercise. The following is how I think you, noelle, should respond to be totally honest with us, your readers.

>Hi,
>
>Sorry, can't make it tonight. Aside from being way too

Tee hee. Taylor, you are an ass!

>much of a hastle--going to Pac Bell park at that time,

'Hastle' is not a word. However, I appreciate that you often talk to yourself in your head where spelling is less important. That's probably how most of your acquaintences think of you anyway. It does indeed rhyme with another term I can think of though, so thanks for the clue!

>not to mention parking and then leaving--is too
>stressful for a first meeting. It's really overdoing

Taylor, you are lame and undependable. I thank you for deciding for me that it was not worth meeting. I believe you are right for the foreseeable future in that respect.

>what should be a casual meeting at a quiet place for an
>hour, or two. Also, we just wouldn't be compatible:

No shit, Surelame. We are definitely not compatible. I am thankful that we will not breed and hopeful that you have not nor never will...at least not until you've gotten professional help anyway.

>you're still reveling in small freedoms like
>legal drinking and no curfew; those are well and good,
>but were, for me, the pervue of my early twenties, not
>early thirties. You're also unemployed,which means I'd

Taylor, I'll gladly enjoy whatever vices I enjoy without you from now on--thanks for the heads up...if that's even possible in your case.

As for being unemployed, well, I am correcting my profile to indicate that I am actually doing consulting. So, Internet stalker that you probably are, you should make a screenshot of my profile before I do change it. That way, there will be continuing evidence of my mistake. That way, whenever you become teary eyed over out "relationship" you can have something to remember me by and smile about until you tear up again.

>always have to pay for everything. Being

Uh, Stupid, who do you think paid for me to get to [whereever it was noelle was supposed to meet Taylor]? In fact, you owe me precisely [the actual amount of time, pain, and suffering incurred, including Internet minutes, phone calls to family and friends, etc--not itemized of course] for wasting my time. If you can't pay now, that's fantastic! I don't really want to have any further transactions with you after you recieve this email.

>hyper-ideological
>is a (classic Jewish) sign of issues of control,
>self-esteem and, especialy,unresolved family-related
>(esp. father-centered) issues. Too much baggage for

WTF?! I imply that I'm Asian in my noelle profile--why can't you get that straight?! Jeesh!

>someone like me who's learned to let go things I can't
>control.

You mean like maybe addressing your emails properly? Or do you mean with regard to treating fellow human beings like extensions of your mental gymnastics olympics?

>We wouldnt be compatible for any length of time and
>time, being my only real asset, is something I can't
>waste.

I hope that you continue to wonder about what time of day it is and that people continue to refuse to give it to you...until you get professional help that is. And don't misinterperet what I'm saying about the professional help thing either. I think you should layoff sex until you've got your other problems ironed out--save your money for therapy, numbnut.

>Thanks for the conversation, though.

I was so prepared to give you a chance, you low-life no good, internet slimeball licking member of the Church of Latter Day Singles. Thanks for showing your true colors at this time, rather than actually touching me. My skin shivers at the thought--but not in the way you frequently imagine while holding your little partner--assuming you are actually a man that is.

>Taylor
>reply to this post

No problem. Let me know if you'd like me to send over some of my cousins to kick you ass. Its not the therapy I truly believe you need, but I feel it would be entertaining nonetheless.

Oh, and if you are going to continue to stalk me via the Internet, I'll get some folks I know at FKO to curse your computer...unless they've already done that already. You know how they like to read my personal email and all. My apologies to your mother if you are using borrowing hers. I didn't mean to bring her into this but, when some lame guy's around, some of their loved ones are also liable to recieve collateral damage from Taylor-ade nascisstic fantasmigorical fantasies.

Yours truly,
Frankly Moving On

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Disclaimer: I am not noelle and probably, even likely, have never met her...if she is a her.

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so noelle,

what did you finally do...

Hey N,

The guy is a headcase and well someone whom may have trouble finding anyone compatible, ever.

The great thing about dating or online dating is that there are plenty of other options.

Keep plugging away, and do what I reccommend doing, look for the basics, chat a bit, make a call and make a coffee date. He was right that the first meeting should be casual. While I don't disagree that the suggested first date would have been fun, I think a no strings, cheap coffee date is the best way to get to know someone.

Good Luck!!

-Steve

What a fucking idiot!

Pass~
Next!!!